Just be
I don't need your good intentions, I need you to show up.
I don't need your suffocation, I need your flexibility.
I don't need molded decisions, I need mutual solutions.
I don't need your resistance, I need your co-operation.
I don’t need your distance, I need your presence.
I don't need your misery, I need your strength.
I don't need your pressure, I need your patience.
I don't need your pity, I need your compassion.
I don't need your emotions, I need mine.
I don't need… I need…
Stop doing.
Just be.
And if you walk, keep walking.
Explaining The Mismatch of Intent in 'Just be'
Support in times of hardship can create a silent mismatch between the intention to help and the impact of that help.
Frequently, without realizing it, we project our own fears or desire for a solution onto the person we are trying to comfort. We unconsciously seek reassurance that things will be "okay," instead of offering a safe harbor for the reality of what is.
Support should never be a transaction. True presence requires setting aside the self. It requires the courage to sit with someone else's experience without trying to fix it, mold it, or make it palatable for our own peace of mind.
After the events of 2020 reframed her life—bringing a life-threatening illness and the end of a long career—Sonja Glover shifted her focus to a purpose-driven journey. Now dedicated to personal development and creative expression, she believes that while we don't always choose our opening lines, we always hold the pen for the chapters that follow.